Dear Dr. Bill,
I'm a 32 year old gay guy and have been with my partner for 3 years now. We have a healthy sex life, are honest with each other and are very much in love. Something I have kept from my boyfriend though is that I have a really strong fetish for men's feet. If I even so much as glance at a guy's feet in a pair of flip-flops I get hard. Also, the soles of my feet are very erogenous and a guy only has to touch them to get me hard.
I have been aroused by men's feet ever since I was a teenager and have acted on my fetish with other men (i.e. sniffing, licking, sucking) but not with my current boyfriend.
I want to incorporate some foot play into our sex life but I'm not sure how he'll take it or if he will think it's weird. I fantasize a lot about men's feet and I am a little worried that I might get the urge to stray and go with another guy behind his back just to get some foot action but I would feel so bad about it as I love him so much. I could never be with another guy and I want to spend the rest of my life with him so I want to stay faithful.
Do you think I should come out and tell him about my fetish? Or do you have any ideas how I can incorporate some foot play into our sex life without freaking him out? I would really like it if he could show some interest in my feet too so if you have any ideas how I can get him interested then please let me know.
I really hope you can help and would be extremely grateful for any advice.
The good news is that foot fetishes are extremely common and unless your boyfriend is a super-conservative prig I can't imagine he would be that freaked out by it. I would suggest nuzzling or sucking his toes during foreplay and seeing what his reaction is -- he may enjoy it! Even if it's not a turn-on for him if you explain how much you love it he may be perfectly willing to incorporate it into your bedroom routine, especially if you're willing to do things that he enjoys but which you may not care less about. There's nothing abnormal about a foot fetish. So stay on your toes, play with those big feet of his, and see what happens! I mean, as fetishes go, a foot fetish is no big deal.