Gay Movie Stars?

Can you tell me if any of the following men are gay: Leonardo DiCaprio, Ben Stiller, Russell Crowe, Jerry Lewis. Anon.

Uh .... since I've never actually had sex with any of these gentlemen or know of any man who has, I can't really say much about their sexual orientation. Russell Crowe played a gay man in the very interesting and moving film The Sum of Us, before he became well-known, but that doesn't automatically make him gay. [The Advocate charged that when he played real-life John Nash in A Beautiful Mind, Nash's attraction to men was ignored.] Leonardo DiCaprio also played a gay role in Total Eclipse. He also starred as Howard Hughes in The Aviator, which presented the possibly gay or bi tycoon as heterosexual. Jerry Lewis may have appeared to be in love with his partner Dean Martin, but that was probably more of what people today call a "man-crush:" a straight guy who platonically loves another man who is sort of a brother or father figure. As for Stiller, who knows?

Anyway, why don't you try gay celebrity-watcher Perez Hilton?

Gay Men and Divas

Why do gay men have a fascination with divas, actresses, Bette Davis, Madonna, and the like? Is it because they want to be them? Anon.

First of all, whenever you talk about gay men, the word "some" should always be used as a prefix. Some gay men may have a fascination with certain, as you call them, divas or movie stars, but certainly not all or even most. These gay men tend to be the more flamboyant members of the community.

Second, Gay men are men; they have no desire to be women. You're confusing homosexuals with transsexuals, or at least you're confusing the average gay man with a drag queen (or gay transvestite). Most gay men are not drag queens and have no interest in dressing up or posing as a member of the opposite sex. There are drag queens (as well as heterosexual transvestites or female impersonators) who dress up as famous women either as part of their act if they're entertainers, or as a homage to someone they are a fan of.

Lastly, both Madonna and Bette Davis have heterosexual fans.

There are many, many gay men who not only have no fascination with divas, but -- believe it or not -- no particular interest in any aspect of show biz. There are gay men who like sports, camping, back-packing, computers, hardware, electronics, hunting etc. etc.

Let's get past the stereotypes. We are a very diverse bunch of fellows.