Good Evening, I came across your blog when looking up Gay
Dating Etiquette. I have been single for
about 11 yrs. I joined OurTime.com and
met someone about a 1 1/2 months ago. We
have been on 4 dinner dates and have a great time. Each time we greet and end with a handshake.
We always agree to do it again. I know
we have great chemistry. But how/when
would be the time to show more affection?
Last Night was our 4th date and the discussion turned to
both of us sharing the darker side we experienced. I found him even more attractive. I texted him and told him is was a fun dinner
and followed up with asking for a date this upcoming Tues or Wed. He texted back and agreed to Wed.
I am confused. I am
liking him more and more each time I see him. He has told me he thinks I am
attractive, and that he met someone that casually knows me. His friend asked what he has been up to. He said he met a great guy and has been
enjoying that. I guess I have his
attention.
Please help. I just
don't want to get any older and still be alone.
I really enjoy this guy.
Thank you for any advise you can offer.
Four dates and not even a good-night kiss yet? What are you waiting for?
Seriously, it sounds as if each of you is waiting for the other to make a move. You've gotten to know each other, enjoy each other's company, and find each other attractive. If he won't make the first move, then you'll have to do it.
It is easy enough to be affectionate. You can give him a gentle, loving pat on the cheek. Squeeze his shoulder or thigh. Put you arm around him. Some people aren't comfortable with Public Displays of Affection, and some gay men are still in the closet, so I would suggest taking him to a gay bar where he might feel more at ease. Try to sit side by side either in the bar or restaurant, wrap your arm around him, and give him a kiss on the cheek. Hopefully he'll turn in your direction and you'll be kissing on the mouth. I think you'll know when the time is right. Hell, even if it isn't, give it a try! What can you lose?
If he has some problems or issues it's better to know it sooner then later.
This may lead into a question of "my place or yours." I would suggest telling him that you're not just interested in him as a sex object, but have romantic feelings as well. That way he'll know what your intentions are and you can better gauge his reaction.
I'm not saying that sex should be hurried, but if you're hoping for a possible long-term relationship with this guy, sooner or later you'll have to know if the two of you are compatible. Stick to safe sex, use a condom, and enjoy yourself.
Have fun and good luck!
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