Is there any "gay life" for older gay men? MR.
There sure is, if you know where to find it. Getting older in an ageist society is no picnic whether you're gay or straight, but there are lots of ways to make connections with other mature men who share your chronology and interests. There are gay bars that cater strictly or primarily to older gay men, and if bars aren't your thing -- or you live in a small town without any gay bars -- there's always the Internet. Some older people say "pish tosh!" when you talk of computers, but you can get one for a reasonable price, you don't have to be a rocket scientist, and the Internet is a great way for isolated gays (of all ages) to stay in touch with one another. Of course, since you're reading this, you're already on the Internet, so I would suggest such gay dating/friendship/sex sites as http://silverdaddies.com and if you're a bear or like bears http://bear411.com. Even if you just want a pen pal these sites can be very helpful, and yes, some guys have even made long-lasting romantic connections. Perhaps the nearest big city in your area has a gay or GLBT center that may have social groups for older guys. Whether it's dates, sex, friendship or a relationship that you're looking for you can make connections at these and other sites. Don't be bashful -- you don't have to be alone!